To move towards forgiveness, it is important to understand why we feel hurt.
If forgiveness is required because of physical abuse, for example, the cause of the hurt is obvious.
If, however, the hurt is emotional, for example, it may take some inner searching to understand our feelings.
Do our feelings of hurt stem from being belittled?
We then must ask ourselves did the person try to belittle us or did the feelings of belittlement stem from our own self-esteem or self-worth?
If in this example our feelings of belittlement stem from our own self-worth, we must learn to forgive ourselves. Our hurt does not stem from someone else but comes from our own feelings of worth.
WHY DO WE FEEL HURT?