Abuse comes in many forms, whether emotional, physical, sexual or otherwise. Abuse is a sign of an unhealthy relationship, past or present.
We develop strategies, whether consciously or subconsciously, to cope with trauma in life. These coping strategies were developed for a purpose but when the threat is no longer there, our subconscious does not let go of these coping strategies. In order to truly live, emotionally and physically, after abuse, we must let go of these old coping mechanisms as they no longer serve us. They actually inhibit our ability to live life to its fullest.
Many abuse victims whether as a child or as an adult suppress their memories of the abuse and do not understand their fears, triggers and emotional reactions to any given situation.
SELF DISCOVERY CHART
The following is a chart to assist in self-discovery. The conditions listed are common among survivors of abuse.
Addictions of any type –alcohol, cigarettes, drugs and/or food
A need to control others, particularly those close to you
Attracted to either abusive or abnormally withdrawn partners
Extreme or lack of interest towards sex
Fear of being controlled and/or feeling your freedom is being limited
Fear of intimacy
Fear of letting people get close to you
Fear that you are predisposed to being destructive and that this may become uncontrollable
Feelings of being incapable of feelings or expressing affection
Feeling that other do not like you
Feeling your contact with others is being limited
Feeling guilty particularly for not living up to the expectations of others or yourself
Feeling intimidated by sexual partners
Hiding your real feelings
Not expressing your personal needs
Issues with authority figures
Never been able to maintain lasting relationships with friends, spouses and/or others
Self-blame for the abusive behavior by others
Sudden outbursts of anger and/or aggressive impulses, explainable or not explainable
Unrealistic expectations of others
For your convenience, we have included a downloadable copy of the Self-Discovery Chart.
Shame is a lie resulting from abuse that is believed by the victim. It is a powerful response that can create a feeling of being unacceptable, faulty, worthless and responsible for what has taken place. It can cause the belief that the victim is damaged beyond repair. This is the perpetuated lie that has robbed the victim of their self-confidence and self worth.
By identifying issues through the Self-Discovery Chart, the victim can create new positive affirmative messages for their subconscious. Through hypnosis, we can plant the seed to build self-worth, trust, confidence etc. The client will replace their old thinking habits with new messages that support healthy responses and thinking.
Through visualization exercises and hypnosis, the survivor of abuse can give love to the abused victim so that the abuses individual can feel love and in turn have the ability to love and trust once again.
Tear down the old and build new positivity. We can move the subconscious mind to a new place to reside, a new residence where love and positive thoughts form the foundation.
Initial Session including intake, Self Discovery, Visualization Exercise and Hypnosis - $120.00 Further Hypnosis Session - $80.00